The past 8 years, I've tried to journal, out of a feeling of knowing it would make me better. I know it will make me better, but I don't really want to be better. I don't want to put forth the effort to be better.. Because, while I'm not wont to admit. I'm lazy.. There I've said it.. I don't want to be, but I am. I'm 35 years young and I've spent the last 8 years, with a negative attitude not putting forth the effort. I can't believe the choices I've made that have led to me being "JUST" a stay at home mom. Bitter and ungrateful.. I am a stay at home mom that hated it, that looked down at other moms who truly wanted this even after their kids started school. My judgement was exponentially greater, if they had a degree. "You've spent money to get a degree and now your not going put it to use." Judgemental and jealous, I listened to women speak of how they are choosing to stay home. While, mentally I raged, "If, I had a degree that could support childcare and my consumerism, I would definitely put it to use. I wouldn't dare expect my husband to support me financially if I could have a "REAL" job after the kids were in school."
I was wrong.
I have a "REAL" Job, while not glamorous or appreciated, it's one of the most important jobs and GOD has blessed me. While, I still struggle with judgement of other women. I realize we all have our own struggles, our own ideas about life and our own failings. Today, I was lucky enough to attend church. The pastor spoke on dark sin and by only truly giving up and giving it to GOD could we be redeemed from it.. Christians so many times say simply "Just stop..." We as a people aren't.. We aren't clinging to Jesus in rescue, we're trying to control and abstain ourselves.. I realized that one of my biggest sins besides they typical sins, has been my heart towards my service to my family.
For nearly eight years, I have chafed against my role as a Stay at Home Mom. This isn't what I had intended for my life. I was going to do something, to be somebody. I wasn't made for domestic arts, I've read books, blogs, tweets on how to be a better mom, wife and homemaker and I still suck. I can't wait to go back to school to get my degree, so that I can start my life. These have been my thoughts for the past 8 years..
Today, I realized thanks to GOD speaking through Jonah, Bob, and Don. My job is nothing more than an Act of Service. An Act of service, should always be an act of love, not an act of obligation, or an act of tit for tat, but an Act of Love.
For eight years my Person has provided for me financially, overlooked the messy house, and tried to continuously show me that I am good enough, that I am worthy. He doesn't claim Jesus. YET. He has shown me the love of Jesus in marriage for 14 years now. I thank GOD for him, I have been serving him and my boys with a heart of bitterness, and regret and selfishness.
I realized at lunch with friends today that if I do my job with resentment and bitterness, or begrudgingly it isn't love that I am showing but obligation, or selfishness.. I want to show my beautiful boys that LOVE is an action, that LOVE Does. I haven't been doing that. From this point forward, I'm going to try. When I fail, which I will do, I'm going to remember that Christ died in the most shameful way, to overcome all my shame, guilt and despair. I am a daughter of king, I am a wife, I am a mom and that is good enough. It is a blessing. So, here's to trying again, to relying on grace when you don't measure up and having a heart of love in all things.
Be GOD's.
~G